Introduction

Yes we all know the world has become a multi paced and multidimensional place nowadays. When we suffer from the filling of void and knowing that something is missing, at that moment you may be thinking about how to connect with ourselves. With so many things happening around us and we got distracted by events one after another. Many of us have to go to work, college or uni, and/or do both. With so much stress and work and day to day responsibilities and tasks , checklist, demands fall upon us, it is too easy to get distracted and get lost in contact with our own deep self.

However, with problems comes solutions. Don’t lose hope at all my dear readers. In this article I have crafted and designed 15 essential steps and plans in order to find your inner peace and purpose when you think all is lost. You will be able to get back in the game and much love to you in advance with your journey.

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1. It is Important to Spend a Daily Quiet and Peaceful Time

The first step, task , guide or challenge or whatever you call it, is- to spend a silent quiet time everyday for 10 to 15 minutes. I know it is difficult nowadays to spend a quiet time for yourself even for minimum of 10 -15 minutes a day. However, it is an effective way to connect with your own self . Just imagine a scenario where you are free from any activities and all of your thoughts also turned off from your brain, and you have just press a reset/ pause button inside of you to stop everything and start analyze for yourself, so that you can get  feedback from yourself and analyze what direction you are heading and how it is going to affect your life, positively or negatively or you are heading towards merely waste of time that brings none of those 2. 

In order to do that discussion and introspection with yourself, you need to spend a quiet time with yourself everyday for about 10- 15 minutes minimum. It is indeed a powerful way to transform your overall self.

And now a question comes , how can you make this moment or organize this moment and adopt it as a daily habit and incorporate this into your daily routine? Just start with some cozy fragrance/ perfume, make your room cozy at the beginning, take a cup of tea/coffee, bring your favourite cookie along with it and don’t forget your cozy blanket and cushion also. Then turn off your phone or keep it in Zen mode, it’s better. You can light up a candle if you want, and now sit and lay down on your back in the backrest and sit down with all your thoughts and mental stuff. While you are in that moment, keep your focus on a few things- your breathing and its rhythm ( let the inhale bring you positivity and exhale carries away your stress and tension and anxiety and so on). Don’t overthink or something like this, just be normal and relaxed as much as possible. Let the excessive worries go away by itself, we know we can not solve everything so we let it go and we will not bother to think about it which doesn’t serve anything to us. 

You can do your religious prayer also at this moment and can talk with your creator alone. You will be feeling much much relaxed and inspired and stress free and charged with positivity. You will feel the positivity, joyfulness and unknown excitement within you. You will be more connected to your true self in this regard. 

2. Writing down or journaling your thoughts and/or feelings

Journaling is a famous concept for finding inner peace , bringing calm and peace and making connections with oneself. It is as though you are having a conversation with yourself in another way which is in written form, you can visualize your current situation and goals and how far you are from them and what you are doing, and for that visualization you need pen and paper to illustrate them in front of your own eyes. 

Journaling doesn’t have to be perfect, it can be drawing and writing some words just to make you understand what you are and your surroundings and where are you heading towards. My personal journaling method or idea is first i draw a cartoon (which is me ) in the middle of the white notebook and them i fill up all the empty spaces around my cartoon with the things i go through day to day life, instead of words, drawing them as picture or symbol, is sharp and short way to see the bigger picture which oftentimes i cant see by myself. This is how I get an overall idea and how much I have been distanced from my inner core self. And a clear picture of what I need to do in order to get back on my path. It is simple, but you can do journaling in whatever method or style you prefer, or enjoy. You can for instance write about your day, you can write what is going on in your mind also. 

It is pretty astonishing that when you put your thoughts and emotions into written words, your problem and its solution comes into visible reality in front of your eyes. You have a clear understanding of what you love and what you are grateful for and what things you require to move forward upward. At the same time it will be easier for you to put away your emotions and you will find out what has been disturbing or annoying you in your life. 

Journaling is also  a fantastic method of l way to realize your thought patterns. You get a clear visualized picture of what makes you happy, what r=are the things that make you triggered and what things make you upset. After that when you will be reading this written journal again after a few months, you will see the difference and proof of your progress in your life. Journaling is also a reminder for your personal growth, continuous life learnings and your need for connection with your core self. 

3. Putting up Boundaries Around you For Self Care purpose

Putting up boundaries and drawing a line between you and everything outside is necessary for self connection and maintaining inner balance. You don’t have to say “YES” to everything, You can say “NO” to others. In fact, saying NO to others and unnecessary things is actually saying YES to yourself. You could feel the difference in your day to day life and performance when you can spend effective time to yourself and things which you appreciate and nourish you and improve yourself rather than spending time on things which don’t matter or are unnecessary and drain your energy. At the same time you should remember that, setting up boundaries doesn’t mean you will shut yourself down from others and lock yourself inside a restricted wall. Main principle of setting up boundaries should be respecting your own self and respecting your energy , peace of mind, and understanding an universal fact that- taking care of you does not mean selfishness it is self- respect. 

Amongst many reason, it could be the reason for you to lose touch and connection with yourself when you might have thought that you need to say yes everytime in order to please others, you might put their feelings and needs before you while they never thought or cared your your feelings, so they took you for granted and you kept saying yes and pleasing them , never setting up boundaries, being afraid that their ego or emotion could get hurt and at the same time being drained, frustrated, weak, sick and losing connection with yourself resulting in failed to move forward to your life’s goal and vision and success. I am just trying to give scenarios because many people I gave voluntary counseling in my real life, most of them suffered this kind of situation. So what I tell them is to find the key area and stages where their defense is weak and they tend to feel down there and to reinforce themself being more conscious and simply saying NO. I kid you not, let me give you an example- think of a scenario, you are tired from your job, you woke up you did this you did that, you went to your work , worked all day long, so many client call so many customer to engaged in and then after a stressful day you came back to home tired and drained but you have find out that you have received new email from work, or you have an appointment in some social meeting. Then you start to say “yes” and start replying to those emails engaged in more work and “yes”  those meetings and social events which left you so drained that your next day started with depression and lost connection with your inner self. 

Just take a step back, relax and stop for a moment, and ask yourself – “How can I effectively become more cautious of myself so that no one takes advantage of me” ?  “How can I make more time for myself” ? “How can I say No to things which do not serve me, excites me, inspires me?” “ What value can be added to my life when I start to say no?” “ How can I protect my time, energy, peace of mind by focusing on reinforced boundaries effectively?” 

Everytime you set up boundaries , brick by brick , in small steps, you will be building for yourself a life that serves you with your purpose, your value, your own needs and effectively you will be able to connect with yourself more easily. So embrace this without feeling of guilt or shame, self care is not selfishness it is called self respect- I said it earlier. 

4. Self-Compassion Practicing

Basic definition of Self -Compassion which I believe is, when you are failing or feeling a failure and  you are thinking you are not good enough for anything, you are not seeing any visible result after putting effort in your goals and dreams, you are losing yourself into nothingness, and for that reason you are suffering, But You have decided to treat yourself with kindness, understanding and releasing negative thoughts about yourself, overall you choose love over hate – This is Self Compassion.

Now how can you practice Self compassion right? It is your connection with yourself and your creator, you have to remind yourself that the one who made you and sent you in this planet loves you more than your parents and you have to remind yourself that you need to take yourself with more loving towards yourself and your creator. Give a gentle hug to your soul, forgive yourself, appreciate yourself for the path you have come so far, the obstacles you have overcome to become today’s you!  Choose kindness and love over lust and hatred, to you and also to everyone. Embrace yourself for who you are, we all have flaws we all have shortcomings but you appreciate yourself for being you. 

Don’t be sad nor depressed when you are down, when you have been disappointed in yourself for not achieving your goals and vision, its okay, setback is a part on learning and journey of life, life is a journey towards final destination of afterlife success (if you believe in life after death), enjoy the process be present in the moment, be happy and grateful always. If you feel a certain way which is not what you want , say to yourself that , I’m fine , I am capable of this. 

Everytime we lose connection with yourself and we feel that everything is getting dark and we are feeling lost tackle this situation with love , empathy, and forgiveness. Self compassion is forgiving yourself -true, but however proper way to accept and forgive us is – some mistakes or bad habits which is detrimental to us, you just say to yourself i will not repeat the past mistake with my conscious which was detrimental for me however, if I do the mistake again due to forgetfulness or in a state of unaware condition, I will forgive myself again and i will keep moving forward to my life’s journey to the success. 

5. Ground yourself with the help of meditation

We need to ground ourselves when we are looking for connect ourselves. Grounding or center down yourself is important and to do so the great toolset is meditation. Meditation each day helps to reduce stress, anxiety and taking break from chaos and disorder around us.  We all know the benefits of meditation , but when you are stressed or disconnected with you at the moment , then what you will do? What is the process or tools or method to instantly get back up and reduce anxiety and stress and feelings of loss? This skill set also makes your body and mind accustomed to meditation- which is a double inhale single exhale method.  First, take a deep breath to fill your lungs with air (feel the air) and when you are done filling your lung with air, then take another breath (this small amount of air in your lung in 2nd breath is crucial),  then exhale the air with mouth, empty the entire lung. This will immediately balance you and reduce stress , anxiety, and when you do this exercise on daily basis, you will be able to feel inner peace because physiologically your stress and anxiety will be reduced in a constant way. 

The word “Meditation” itself may sound much complex and intimidating at first, however you don’t need to be some kind of expert or need to go to the dedicated place for it. Take it easy and as a normal habit. Try to be in the moment / stay at the present scenario. Your past is P A S T – that’s it, it’s gone, it’s not coming, don’t regret it, keep the lesson. Don’t worry about your future, it is not in your hands either, neither can we control anything. What we can control is our mind and thoughts, so why worry? Control your thoughts and cultivate positive thoughts into it. Eliminate all worries from your system. – Telling yourself these things to make your brain understand and comprehend this is also a meditation. 

Each day, practicing how to be in the moment and present is not easy unless you dedicate a small time to cultivate this habit within you. The more you practice the more you control your brain and mind the more you will feel focused and grounded, you will be well prepared to tackle any kind of situation, which might arise in your journey of life. 

6. Restart The Activities Which You Used to Love

There were so many activities you used to love and enjoy doing, maybe you have not done them in a long time, or even started to forget. It could be painting, reading books, going to visit kith and kins, cooking the latest recipes and sharing them with loved ones, or engaging in social activities which are beneficial for the community and neighbours. 

After stepping into the adulthood, its responsibilities and/or fast paced life expectation and so many things going on in our surroundings, we often get distracted and even forget that we had some of the activities which we used to love and cherish which would bring excitement and joy in us while doing it. By establishing a reconnection with these activities is like reactivating your joy and happiness and feeling of being free and rediscovering our unevaluated value within ourselves. 

It could even be going into fishing or hiking in the nature, or even more adventurous staff, ro may be some activities you thought you would do but never had opportunity to do so, for instance para jumping or paragliding- It is time to give attention to those things when you lose your connection to yourself. It is also a form of self nurturing or inner nurturing – something which I call them. And don’t forget to expect too much perfection from you and every activities, just keep enjoying those moments.

7. Your Body Also Need Some Attention from You!!

We often ignore what our body is trying to tell us. Body always signals to us what it needs and what we can give it to nurture and bring balance inside them. But a matter of fact, which is sad that due to our busy life and hustling bustling daily activities we can’t hear those calls. Or perhaps we can hear but can’t afford time to listen to them. The call of our body can be many- for instance it  might demand rest and sleep, or it could be nutrition deficiency by giving signs of fatigue and stress (if you are overworked), or it can be call to go to the gym if you became immobile for long time ( like many of us who stays in 1 place for long time, like sitting in the chair in front of pc and so on). Listening to the needs and wants of our body is another way of connecting with your own self. 

So, now you got it, and go find time to listen to those needs from your body. You could start it by asking a few questionnaires to you and start to act according to those signals and signs. 

Ok let me give you some examples, so if you notice that you are having difficulty in concentrating and increased in hunger then your body needs sleep, if you feel muscle cramp, feeling fatigue or getting sick more often than that is vitamin and nutrition deficiency – your body is asking for iron, vitamin D , magnesium and protein. If you can’t sleep at night even though you were working all day long and tired too but can’t sleep, having some digestive issue or insomnia then your body is telling you that you are overworking and heavily stressed. I can go on and on but these are a few examples. If you want I will write another full article for this topic, so let me know in the comments. 

So, treat your body kindly ,gently, give what it needs badly, do not ignore the signs and call from your body, give your ears to it. So this conscious practice will not only give you good health , a sound body but also a sound mind and better connection to yourself. 

8. Re-evaluate your Personal Values, Visions  and Aspiration

Human life is in general ever changing, i would prefer to say changing in an updating sense, we continuously learn and grow and get evolved into higher and higher stages of our life eventually. So the values which we had 5 years ago might need some adjustment or upgradation along with life’s experience and lessons acquired by this time period. What actually matters now in today’s world and what is not serving us is the adjustment we need time to time for maintaining continuous connection to ourself. For instance may be you started prioritizing your career 4-5 years ago, but now maybe you have learned that family is more important than career, you might adjust and focus your priority list according to that vision and goals.

9. Take a break or Disconnect for some Time from Tech

Taking a break from digital world and all tech devices lightened up the emotions and charges your productive thoughts from your inside, due to the constant notification bomb our inner voice gets shadowed by those distractions which is why in the first place we lose connection, so in order to get  back our connection with yourself is turn off and getting disconnected from tech and devices for a short time may be a day or half of a day or may be 1 hour every day-  is ample. Yes it is difficult. I know cuz i have been there but trust me , it’s worth it. 

10. Spend Time in Nature Try to spend more time with Nature

Nature is the best way to connect with yourself, spending some time in nature boosts the immune system ,reduces stress and removes negative thoughts. In order to connect with yourself , spending time in nature is essential, you need to find time for this activity for peace of mind. Your inner peace, calmness and self gratefulness will improve along with it. If you are not able to go in the nature for a few minutes everyday then do it once in 7 days, if you are still not able to do so, try going into nature every 15 days after, or at least once a month. 

11. Be surrounded With the people who Supports you

People who you surround yourself with play a vital role in your inner peace development and succeed in life purpose. Surrounding yourself with the people who support you , cheer you up, lift your spirit are the ones who you need to keep with you always. They will always help you to get reconnected with yourself on good and bad days. We should distance ourselves from the people who put you down, use you and bring negativity in your mind. Always remind yourself that you deserve bond and interpersonal relationships which bring the best out of yourself not the other way around. 

12. Be Mindful Everyday in Your Daily Moments

Well, being mindful everyday and in daily moments require a practise and cultivating habit of being mindful. The benefit is also very rewarding at the same time. Try to find joy in little simple things, slow down a little bit, pay attention to details in the present ongoing moments. 

These habits make us to be more grounded , maintain inner peace and focused on our purpose and you will be able to connect yourself with a deeper level when you are present in the moment. Just be present in the moment, not in past, nor in future.

13. Take Feedback About Growth and Accomplishments

Taking feedback from us about yourself is another word you can call it something like reflect and rethink. Often our focus drifts around many things , to reflect and rethink about our goals, and ongoing self growth and accomplishment is taking feedback from us, how can I do better, how can i be more attentive, what should I do more to maintain my growth and increase growth potential. Small amount of time for this kind of question each day is more than enough for connect deeply with yourself. 

14. Create a Vision and/ Dream for Your Future Self

Visualizing your future self is a fantastic way to connect with yourself or in other words, the person you want to be or want yourself to see in the near future. Close your eyes and think about yourself, what kind of person you want to be in the near future, what qualifications you want to see in you, and be excited and inspired by those visions. You will be able to see your road with more clarity. 

15. Practice Daily Gratitude

It is the last but very crucial point to find inner peace and purpose for deeper inner connection, “Gratefulness”. Be grateful , be happy , you don’t need to find reason. You were able to live today to see the sky, to breath, to feel – is more than enough to be grateful. Before going to bed sleep with content and happiness for what you have, What God has provided you with love and care. Not to think about what you don’t have, but to be grateful for what you have- is the peaceful way to end the day and end your 15 steps journey to find inner peace and purpose in your life and make a concrete deep connection with yourself. 

Final Thoughts

Yes, you have finished reading and found your tools to connect with yourself. But it is you who needs to put them into action to reap the benefits of these beautiful techniques and steps. It’s not hard to do so, all you need is to pursue everything, approach everything with love and empathy. I wish you a successful and happy journey. If you love my writing and this article please don’t forget to leave a comment below and follow and leave your thoughts, also share it with your friends and save my blog in your bookmarks so that you can be benefited with future articles.